In the last few days I have had more surprises than I can cope with. They have been, both, good and bad. Both have unsettled me when, in fact, I should be in a state of equilibrium having had good and bad surprises in equal measure, if you see what I mean.
Life doesn’t work that way, though, and in midlife I find myself quite underequipped to deal with my surprises. It’s down to feeling not in control. The older I get the more I want to feel in control but life has other plans for me.
Negative feelings
The feeling of unpredictability can be disconcerting because as humans, we often seek stability and familiarity. Surprises disrupt the routine and the ordinary, forcing us to confront the unknown and adapt to new situations. It’s like stepping into the realm of uncertainty, and that can be scary. š¬
They can also leave us feeling uneasy, making us question our expectations and challenging our sense of control. š
But what about the joy?
On other hand, surprises can bring joy, create unforgettable memories, and keep us on our toes, making life thrilling and unpredictable.
How to embrace surprises
But here’s the thing ā stepping outside our comfort zone and embracing the unexpected can be incredibly empowering. š It allows us to grow, learn, and discover hidden strengths we didn’t even know we had. Surprises can be catalysts for personal development, pushing us to break free from self-imposed limitations. š±šŖ
Let’s face it ā life would be pretty mundane without surprises. Imagine if every day followed a predictable pattern ā no surprises, no spontaneous laughter, no extraordinary adventures. We’d miss out on some of the best moments life has to offer! šāØ
So, while the element of surprise may feel unsettling at times, let’s remember that it’s an integral part of the human experience. Embracing the unknown with an open mind can lead us to wonderful opportunities and enrich our lives in unexpected ways. šš
The next time life throws you a curveball, take a deep breath and go with the flow. ā¤ļøš
How do you cope with surprises?
